This does seem to be an assumption made by many,
That because I’ve already done it all once that it will be far less scary this time around. I don’t know about everyone of course, but for me this just simply isn’t true. If anything, the fact that I’ve already done it, and know what’s to come makes it even scarier than first time around.
I still remember my labour like it happened yesterday, and the first few months of actually having no clue what we were doing. How were we expected to keep this tiny noisy baby alive haha! But we did, we managed it and learnt along the way, my second baby is due in less than 30 days and both me and my husband are dreading doing all the early days again. The guys behind persil and comfort have been doing some reaserch into this, and it seems it’s a very common worry for second time parents, check out the facts below.
NEW RESEARCH TACKLES SECOND-TIME-MUM MISCONCEPTIONS
Persil Non-Bio and Comfort Pure reveals it’s just as hard the second time round
7th MAY, LONDON: Despite pregnant mums feeling naturally excited about having another baby, they still feel apprehension about having another child and crave a friendly recap. Nearly two thirds of mums are worried about going through pregnancy again (64%), with a further 63% wanting more time with their partners and friends, and 36% worrying that they don’t remember the basics, feeling they need to turn to friends who have done it already, for advice.
Persil Non-Bio and Comfort Pure have asked 500 pregnant mums what they are most looking forward to, and what worries them most, about their upcoming arrival. The research uncovered three areas of apprehension; time, routine and maintaining the house.
1) TIME: Nearly two thirds (63%) of second time mums-to-be worry about having enough to spend with their partners, and a further 52% think about how they will split time fairly between their expanding brood. 60% worry about losing more ‘me time’
2) ROUTINE: 53% of mums feel concerned about adding a new baby’s routine in. In particular 42% feel that managing an effective sleep routine would be the most difficult stage to overcome and one fifth (20%) of mums also wonder if they will have enough time to bond with their new baby whilst juggling with the needs of the other child(ren)
3) CHORES: The arrival of a new born will see a natural increase in household chores – nearly two thirds (65%) worry about coping with this and 45% of parents are concerned about their utility bills rising
In response to these worries, Persil Non-Bio and Comfort Pure have teamed up with expert charity Family Lives who specialise in advice for parents, to provide a set of top tips and practical advice to address these concerns.
Suzie Hayman from Family Lives advises “It’s easy to assume that second time around means you’ve got it covered. In fact, parents can feel just as anxious with a second pregnancy. They can worry whether they’ll remember how to cope with even the basics, and how they’ll balance the demands of a new arrival with the needs of the first child and their partner. It’s natural and normal to feel like this – which is why I’ve worked with Persil Non-Bio and Comfort Pure to create a set of top tips to help and support new parents.”
1. Parents together
It may feel as if you’re run off your feet and can’t spare a moment but it’s vital to set aside time and attention for the other people in your family. What children need most of all is for their parents to have a strong bond, and to be secure and content. This means it’s not selfish to spend time on each other or take time for you.
Use family, friends and paid childcare to give you nights off or even weekends away, where you ban baby talk and keep your relationship alive.
Share childcare so both of you have moments in the day or evening when the other is in charge of the kids and you can have even a few minutes to relax and do your own thing.
2. Love, time and attention
Your oldest child needs special time too. Kids play up if they are ignored, when they feel hurt, rejected and angry. If the only time they get noticed is when you tell them off, they’ll learn to repeat that behaviour because at least it pays off in attention.
Children thrive best with routines – set times when they know, for instance, they are expected to tidy up and prepare for bed. Make it a golden rule that a parent plays with and bathes them, puts them to bed and reads a story every night. And set other, even short, times aside they know are theirs.
You don’t have to split time equally with your child, or your partner, to feel you acknowledge them, love them and attend to their needs. What you do need to do is show you focus on them, with eye contact, talk and hugs.
3. Double the routine
It may feel as if integrating one child’s routines into your life is hard, trying to keep two might be a nightmare. What helps? One thing is recognising that routines are really important to children – they make them feel secure and loved. And they’re vital for you since they help you keep some control of the chaos that seems to follow kids!
Some aspects of routines need to be set in stone – that you have a bedtime routine (turn off all media and calm down an hour before sleep, have a hot bath, read a story and/or have a chat) but be flexible as these do need to evolve as children get older.
You will find that while some activities seem to clash, others dovetail which allows you to give special attention to each child in turn – or share out the chores such as when you’ll cook, clean, do laundry and when you’ll catch 10 precious minutes for yourself!
Clare Logan, Brand Manager for Persil Non-Bio and Comfort Pure, said: “We commissioned research to find out more about how expectant mums feel the second time round. There is a misconception that as they have been through pregnancy before they do not have any worries the next time. Persil Non-Bio and Comfort Pure know that this is a special and wonderful time for mums and are working with Family Lives help alleviate any niggling concerns, such as managing another little one in the house, so mums can focus on the joy that a second baby in the family brings.”
Persil Non-Bio and Comfort Pure support mums by helping make sure clothes are soft, clean and comforting. Whilst they can’t help do the chores or juggle challenging routines, they can reassure mums – as both brands are skin kind, dermatologically tested, and have skincare research recognised by the British Skin Foundation. Used together they give fresh, pure results gentle enough for even delicate skins.
For further details visit www.persilandcomfort.co.uk.